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Anger And Revenge

Osho – Is revenge something related to anger or something else, and how can we overcome this problem?

Anger Is A Great Resource Of Energy

“Only the ego can be touched. It is very touchy. If somebody just looks at you in a certain way, it is touched. He has not done anything. If somebody smiles a little, it is touched; if somebody just turns his head and does not look at you, it is touched. It is very touchy. It is like a wound, always open, green. You touch it and the pain arises. A single word, a single gesture — the other may not even be aware of what he has done to you, but he has touched it.

And you always think the other is responsible, that he has wounded you. No, you carry your wound. With the ego your whole being is a wound. And you carry it around. Nobody is interested in hurting you, nobody is positively waiting to hurt you; everybody is engaged in safeguarding his own wound. Who has got the energy? But still it happens, because you are so ready to be wounded, so ready, just waiting on the brink for anything.

You cannot touch a man of Tao. Why? –
because there is no one to be touched. There is no wound. He is healthy, healed, whole. This word ’whole’ is beautiful. The word ’heal’ comes from ’whole’, and the word ’holy’ also comes from ’whole’. He is whole, healed, holy.

Be aware of your wound. Don’t help it to grow, let it be healed; and it will be healed only when you move to the roots. The less the head, the more the wound will heal — with no head there is no wound. Live a headless life. Move as a total being, and accept things.

Just for twenty-four hours, try it — total acceptance, whatsoever happens. Someone insults you, accept it, don’t react, and see what happens. Suddenly you will feel an energy flowing in you that you have not felt before. Somebody insults you: you feel weak, you feel disturbed, you start thinking of how to get your revenge. That man has hooked you, and now you will move round and round. For days, nights, months, even years, you will not be able to sleep, you will have bad dreams. People can waste their whole life over a small thing, just because someone insulted them.

Just look back into your past and you will remember a few things. You were a small child and the teacher in the class called you an idiot, and you still remember it and you feel resentment. Your father said something. Your parents have forgotten, and even if you remind them, they will not be able to remember it. Your mother looked at you in a certain way and since then the wound has been there. And it is still open, fresh; if anybody touches it, you will explode.

Don’t help this wound to grow. Don’t make this wound your soul. Go to the roots, be with the whole. For twenty-four hours, just twenty-four hours, try not to react, not to reject, whatsoever happens.

If someone pushes you and you fall to the ground — fall! Then get up and go home. Don’t do anything about it. If somebody hits you, bow down your head, accept it with gratitude. Go home, don’t do anything, just for twenty-four hours. And you will know a new upsurge of energy that you have never known before, a new vitality arising from the roots. And once you know it, once you have tasted it, your life will be different. Then you will laugh at all the foolish things you have been doing, at all the resentments, reactions, revenges, with which you have been destroying yourself.

Nobody else can destroy you except you; nobody else can save you except you. You are the Judas and you are the Jesus.

Osho, The Book of Self.
Copyright © 2010 Osho International Foundation

 

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  1. pinks
    July 16, 2011 at 9:52 am

    When the mind is free from stress and negative emotions like anger, revenge and aggression, only then can a feeling of brotherhood and Peace blossom everywhere.Unless every one is peaceful, our peace is incomplete whether it is in Home or Our global Home

    • July 16, 2011 at 11:13 am

      Fully agree and a very nice comment. Peace comes from within us, and by the choices that we make on daily basis, however we need to practice that to make it a habit 🙂

  2. Shammi
    July 17, 2011 at 6:22 am

    If we want to lead a healthy life we have to remove negativity from our mind. Forgive and forget to move forward

    • July 17, 2011 at 8:12 am

      I agree fully, forgiving and forgetting works like healing on us, we have power to be happy, so why leave our happiness in someone else’s hands 🙂

  3. suneina
    August 5, 2011 at 5:21 pm

    its really very difficult to follow it
    if someone hurts you, the pain is terrible..sometimes you are suffering from a pain caused by him/her and he is just enjoying the life..it really hurts..u get angry with a desire of revenge..
    its so difficult to have a positive thinking about that situation..keep calm and relax for 24 hours.
    i will try to follow it once i face a situation like this

    • August 5, 2011 at 6:30 pm

      Nobody else can destroy you except you; nobody else can save you except you. You are the Judas and you are the Jesus. – These are the lines you must focus on, note that everyone is our teacher, if somebody has hurt you, learn from them something. There is saying, “No pain, No gain”. Do you choose to feel the pain and sit back or feel the pain, learn the lesson and move forward? I am sure you have made a choice that will work for you the best 🙂

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