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Learning to forgive

By: Pinky.

Kathy, a girl, became physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually ill by justifying her hatred towards her father. Her father reportedly abandoned the family – Kathy, her mother & six other children. While at home, he physically abused everyone and they were all terrified of him. None of them knew when he would lose his temper and turn violent.

Kathy was affected by chronic state of anger which caused lots of imbalances in her own life more than anyone else’s. She would lash out at those nearby with only the slightest provocation like her father. Her actions cost Kathy heavily, ending up with strained, unhappy relationships and changing job after job.

Hatred and bitterness percolated to her physical levels and she suffered from headaches, stomach problems and eventually developed arthritis. By her twenty-fifth birthday Kathy looked middle aged. She would re-live the miseries of her past each day and cry out that ‘he was a terrible person’.

She knew she would be better off if only she could learn to forgive her father, but she just couldn’t do it, nor did she wanted anyone else to forgive him.

Kathy started the process of forgiveness. Lead by her inner guidance and persistent effort, tried to soften her emotions and change her thought patterns. Slowly she came to understand how her father could have acted so violently, she began to feel pity for him, then compassion and then love.

A person can move forward with a renewed sense of peace when there is no longer the burden of withheld forgiveness. When Kathy learned to forgive her father, she began to forgive and love herself. Her life transformed into a better one and her physical problems cleared up.

Categories: Motivate Yourself
  1. rajeev
    January 25, 2011 at 9:42 am

    Forgiveness though not easy is still the best characteristic of a human being.

  2. pinky
    January 25, 2011 at 1:56 pm

    true rajiv it is really diffcult to forgive.Only who has gr8 heart can do this.

  3. January 25, 2011 at 2:28 pm

    @ Rajeev – Yes it is, and makes life easy to move on 🙂

    @ Pinky – We all humans were blessed with great heart, but sometimes it is hidden behind the cloud called “Ego”, I am too trying all my exercises to win my own Ego and learning to forgive. Thank you for sending nice article 🙂

  4. Shammi
    January 26, 2011 at 12:21 pm

    To err is human to forgive divine…if we want to lead a happy life we have to learn to forgive first. Difficult but essential

  5. Amisha
    January 29, 2011 at 12:05 am

    very nice.

  6. January 29, 2011 at 8:38 am

    @ Shammi – Very nicely said, i totally agree my friend 🙂
    @ Amisha – Thank you 🙂

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