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Appreciation : What to appreciate, When and How: an Important Lesson!

Shared by: Shammi.

One young academically excellent person went for an interview for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview;  BUT in that Comapny, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth’s academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never was there a year he did not score. The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the youth answered “no”.

The director asked, ” Did your father pay your school fees?”. The youth answered, “my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees”.

The director asked, ” Where did your mother work?” the youth answered, “my mother worked as cloth cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, ” Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?” The youth answered,” never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could”

The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother’s hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother’s hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly and his tears fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that she shuddered when his mother’s hands were cleaned with water.

This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother’s hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother’s hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office. The director noticed the tear in the youth’s eye and asked: ” Can you tell what you did and learnt yesterday in your house?”

The youth answered, ” I cleaned my mother’s hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes’

The director asked, “Please tell me what you felt”

The youth said:
Number 1, I know what appreciation is now’. Without my mother, I would not be successful today.

Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.

Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship.”

The director said, ” This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the company improved tremendously.

The Lessons from this anecdote:
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, develops “entitlement mentality” and always puts himself first. He is ignorant of his parents’ efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.

If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask the question- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.

-You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

-After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters.
-It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love and show them the correct way.

-You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parent are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will grow gray.

-The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate, experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others to get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have done and love them for who they are!

Categories: Motivate Yourself
  1. Rui Melo
    November 11, 2010 at 6:50 pm

    Muito importante saber perder….. Mas muito mais dificil é saber ganhar…. A quem nao souber fazer as duas coisas, nunca deveria ser dada a chance nem a oportunidade de mandar em ninguem! Obrigado pela historia, abraços, Rui.

  2. Bijal
    November 11, 2010 at 8:28 pm

    Concordo plenamente…quem nunca fez, não deveria ter a oportunidade de mandar fazer. Espero que mtos pais leiam esta história e compreendam a importância de ensinar os seus filhos(as) a fazer um determinado trabalhp antes mandar alguém o fazer. Só assim a nova geração respeitará o trabalho dos outros, uma vez que a maior parte da actual geração não o faz. É mto triste..

  3. November 12, 2010 at 8:57 am

    @ Rui & Bijal – Com toda a razão, a nova geração tem que ter a noção de como tiveram tudo aquilo com o esforço dos Páis, e exprimentarem para sentirem com quantos paus se faz uma canoa, e isso tornara-os em excelente pessoas no futuro 🙂

  4. pinky
    November 13, 2010 at 9:03 am

    true rajiv….a heart touching story.Reality of my life…Really we need to make them strong enough to face any kind of situation in life as we dont know what the next…Thanx for sharing goodness to everyone.

  5. November 13, 2010 at 9:40 am

    @ Pinky – True, we all love our kids, but we should know real way of educating them, they will never know how all things came to them with our efforts, unless they experience it, and we should make sure they experience this as well 🙂

  6. Amisha
    November 30, 2010 at 11:58 pm

    True,I think all parents need to read this.

  7. December 1, 2010 at 11:21 am

    @ Amisha – very true 🙂

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